Posts in Reflections
An Odyssey in Black

For the first time in my life, I was free of the endless internal verbal abuse I would typically subject myself to. Within this newfound reprieve from decades-old self-loathing, I finally saw that there was hope for me. 

I was beginning to feel what it meant to be free, and understand that this kind of freedom was attainable.

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Uplifted Like Mountains: Guiding Boys Through New Rites of Passage

From Taylor Swift to the Rocky Mountains, amidst wind-whispered stories and cold-night sleeping bags, we’re shaping the lives of boys becoming men. As they’re held in meaningful relationships and supported to overcome real challenges, a generation of compassionate, resilient and courageous young men is taking shape.

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What Is Healthy Masculinity?

With a healthy masculinity summit in October 2012 in Washington, D.C., a key component of an ambitious two-year project to ‘spread the message of nonviolent, emotionally healthy masculinity,’ it seemed timely for Voice Male to ask several members of its national advisory board, and other colleagues and allies, to address in short essays their thoughts about the challenges inherent in trying define ‘healthy masculinity.’ What follows are the voices of those who responded just before the magazine went to press.

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What #MeToo Asks of Men

Thanks to #MeToo, the heightened awareness and expressions of support for these changes increases their relevance and impact. These actions also offer men ways to respond to #MeToo and to be more respectful and nonviolent toward women. Even if there is never another #MeToo tweet, now is the time for individual men and profeminist men’s organizations to step forward and work to achieve real, lasting change.

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The Tragic Tale of Boys’ Closeness

It comes back to parents, the primary protection for growing boys and their closest model for what it means to be authentically connected to others. It lives within schools, where boys learn the script for manhood and navigate their resistance to it. And more than anywhere else, it unfolds in the inner lives of boys: in the unseen depth of their friendships and shared secrets, in the quiet breathing as they fall asleep, in their ability to say the words that are too often left unsaid.

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